Using Beethoven to Master Your Emotions

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Music can help us sit with difficult emotions and notice how they change over time.

In a world that often encourages us to distract ourselves from discomfort, one of the most valuable psychological skills we can develop is the ability to sit with difficult emotions without immediately trying to escape them.

At Artemis Psychology Services, we believe that emotional wellbeing is not about eliminating distress. Rather, it is about building the capacity to experience life’s full emotional range with greater awareness, resilience, and self-compassion.


One surprising ally in this process is the music of Ludwig van Beethoven.


Why Beethoven?


Beethoven’s music is often described as intensely emotional, moving through grief, struggle, anger, hope, triumph, tenderness, and acceptance. What makes his work particularly powerful from a psychological perspective is that he does not avoid emotional tension — he leans into it.


Listening attentively to Beethoven can become an exercise in emotional regulation and expanding your window of tolerance — the zone in which we can remain present, reflective, and emotionally engaged without becoming overwhelmed.

Rather than distracting ourselves from difficult feelings, Beethoven invites us to stay with them long enough to discover that they change, evolve, and eventually resolve.


The Emotional Fitness Analogy

Just as physical strength develops through progressive challenge, emotional resilience develops through gradual exposure to manageable levels of emotional discomfort.

When listening to emotionally evocative music:

  • Notice what feelings arise.
  • Resist the urge to immediately distract yourself.
  • Observe bodily sensations.
  • Stay curious rather than judgemental.
  • Allow emotions to move through you.

This practice strengthens emotional flexibility and self-awareness.


A Simple Beethoven Exercise

Set aside 10–15 minutes.

Step 1: Choose a Piece

For contemplation and emotional awareness:

Moonlight Sonata — Daniel Barenboim

For resilience, determination, and overcoming adversity:

Symphony No. 5 — Deutsche Grammophon

Step 2: Listen Without Doing Anything Else

Avoid multitasking.

  • No scrolling.
  • No emails.
  • No chores.

Simply listen.

Step 3: Observe

Ask yourself:

  • What emotions do I notice?
  • Where do I feel them in my body?
  • What thoughts emerge?
  • What memories arise?
  • Which parts of the music feel uncomfortable?
  • Which parts feel relieving?

Step 4: Reflect

When the music finishes, notice:

  • Did the emotion stay the same?
  • Did it intensify?
  • Did it soften?
  • Did it transform into something else?

Many people discover that emotions are more fluid than they initially believed.


What Beethoven Teaches Us About Difficult Feelings

Beethoven experienced profound personal adversity, including progressive hearing loss, chronic health problems, grief, disappointment, and social isolation.

Pain and meaning can coexist.

His compositions do not suggest that suffering should be ignored. Instead, they model what happens when we acknowledge struggle while continuing to move forward.

This mirrors what effective therapy often involves — not getting rid of difficult emotions, but developing the confidence that we can experience them safely without being controlled by them.


Building Your Window of Tolerance

If you regularly find yourself avoiding emotions through overworking, excessive screen time, alcohol, constant busyness, or other distractions, intentional music listening can be a gentle starting point.

The goal is not to feel worse.

The goal is to become more capable of:

  • Recognising emotions early.
  • Naming them accurately.
  • Remaining present with them.
  • Responding thoughtfully rather than reacting impulsively.

Over time, this can enhance emotional regulation, self-understanding, and psychological resilience.


Final Thoughts

The next time a difficult feeling arises, consider taking a seat, putting on a Beethoven recording, and allowing yourself a few moments to simply notice.

You may discover that emotions are less like permanent states and more like movements within a symphony — rising, falling, changing, and eventually resolving.

And like Beethoven’s music, even our most difficult emotional experiences can become part of a larger story of growth, meaning, and resilience.


If you would like support in developing emotional regulation skills, expanding your window of tolerance, or processing difficult life experiences, Artemis Psychology Services provides evidence-based therapy tailored to your individual needs.

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If You Have Issues With Trust: How toLearn to Trust Yourself

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One of the most common things I hear as a psychologist in therapy is, “I don’t trust people.”

Sometimes this comes after a betrayal. Sometimes it follows a toxic relationship, workplace bullying, family conflict, or a traumatic experience. Occasionally, people tell me they have spent years learning not to trust because trusting others simply wasn’t safe.

What often surprises people is that beneath difficulties trusting others, there is frequently an even deeper issue: a lack of trust in themselves.

Many clients arrive believing their problem is that they trusted the wrong person. As we work together, they begin to discover that the real wound is often the belief that they cannot trust their own judgement, instincts, emotions, or decisions.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone.


Why Trusting Yourself Can Feel So Difficult

Trust in ourselves develops through experience.

As children, we learn whether our thoughts, feelings, and needs are acknowledged or dismissed. If we grew up in environments where our emotions were criticised, minimised, ignored, or punished, we may have learned to doubt ourselves.

Trauma can also disrupt self-trust.

After a traumatic experience, many people ask themselves:

  • “Why didn’t I see the warning signs?”
  • “Why didn’t I leave sooner?”
  • “How did I let this happen?”
  • “Why can’t I get over it?”

These questions often come from a place of self-blame rather than self-compassion.

The truth is that our brains and nervous systems are designed to keep us safe. Sometimes the decisions we made during difficult periods were the best decisions available to us at the time.

Healing often begins when we stop judging our past selves and start understanding them.


The Cost of Not Trusting Yourself

When we lose trust in ourselves, we may:

  • Constantly seek reassurance from others.
  • Overanalyse decisions.
  • Struggle with boundaries.
  • Stay in unhealthy situations too long.
  • Ignore our intuition.
  • Become disconnected from our needs and values.
  • Feel anxious about making mistakes.

Many people describe feeling stuck, second-guessing every choice and looking outside themselves for answers.

Over time, this can create exhaustion and self-doubt.


Learning to Rebuild Self-Trust

The good news is that self-trust is not something you either have or don’t have. It is a skill that can be rebuilt.


1. Start Listening to Yourself Again

Many people have spent years ignoring their internal signals.

Begin by noticing:

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • What do I need?
  • What feels right for me?
  • What feels uncomfortable?

You do not need to act immediately on every feeling, but simply acknowledging your inner experience helps rebuild connection with yourself in the present moment.


2. Keep Small Promises

Self-trust grows through consistency.

Rather than making large commitments, start small.

Perhaps you decide to take a walk, attend therapy, practice mindfulness, or establish a healthier boundary.

Each time you follow through on a commitment to yourself, your brain receives evidence that you are reliable.

Trust is built one experience at a time.


3. Learn From Mistakes Instead of Punishing Yourself


Many people believe that trusting themselves means never making mistakes.

That isn’t realistic, and it simply is not true.

Healthy self-trust means knowing that even if things don’t work out as planned, you can cope, adapt, and learn.

Mistakes are not evidence that you cannot trust yourself.

They are evidence that you are human.


4. Become Curious About Your Intuition


Intuition is often misunderstood.

It isn’t magic.

It is the brain’s ability to draw on previous experiences, patterns, and information outside conscious awareness.

When working with trauma survivors, I often see people dismiss their instincts because they have learned to prioritise other people’s opinions over their own.

Developing self-trust involves becoming curious about what your body, emotions, and experiences might be trying to tell you.

Not just relying on negative experiences from the past and forgetting the silver linings.


5. Heal the Underlying Wounds

Sometimes self-trust cannot fully develop until deeper wounds are addressed.

Experiences such as childhood adversity, relationship trauma, workplace bullying, abuse, or significant life changes can leave lasting impacts on how we view ourselves.

Therapeutic approaches such as EMDR, IFS, TF-CBT, ACT, Schema Therapy, and other trauma-informed interventions can help people process these experiences and reconnect with their strengths.

Healing is not about becoming fearless.

It is about learning that you can face life’s challenges while remaining connected to yourself.

By courage.


Trust Is Not About Certainty


One of the biggest misconceptions about trust is that it means being certain.

In reality, trust often means moving forward despite uncertainty.

You may not know exactly how something will turn out.

You may not have all the answers.

But self-trust allows you to believe that whatever happens, you will be able to respond, adapt, and keep moving forward.


A Final Thought

If you struggle with trust, I invite you to consider these questions:


“What if the person I need to trust first is myself?”

“What have I got to lose by investing in myself?”

Learning to trust yourself is not about perfection. It is about developing a compassionate relationship with your own thoughts, feelings, values, and experiences.

The more we learn to listen to ourselves, honour our needs, and recognise our resilience, the stronger self-trust becomes.

And from that foundation, healthier relationships, stronger boundaries, and greater emotional wellbeing can begin to grow.


Remember: self-trust is not something you find. It is something you build.

One small step at a time.

Adapt, Improvise and Overcome.


Cynthia

Creating Space

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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Victor Frankl
Creating space, or just having time to reflect, seems at a premium in our 24-hour news cycle world. There just never seems to be enough time to take time out for you. Many clients tell me that they just don’t have enough time to practice the exercises, focus on their own self-care, or dedicate space for reflection. This evolves into feeling numb, disenfranchised, dissatisfied and stressed!


With the amount of information, we are consuming both intentionally, and sub-consciously through advertising, media streams and others gentle and not so gentle push notifications we are bombarded by “influencers” there is barely enough time left for us. So, I encourage you to take back your own power, find the space, and exercise some self-compassion daily, even if it is only 5 minutes!


Here is a 5-minute guided visualisation to practice placing automatic negative thoughts (ANTS) or intrusive memories (Flashbacks) into a metaphorical or imaginary container

This can be very empowering, allowing you to create space and control your thoughts, sensations and emotions. Artemis Psychology Services is now providing professional trauma-informed supervision to psychologists, social workers, counsellors, support workers, and other health professionals. Professional supervision means having regular consultations with a trained supervisor. It offers you a space to review your work practices and discuss client matters. During supervision, you can:
– Explore your feelings about work (e.g. excitement, frustration, anxiety, discouragement)
– Receive constructive feedback and strategies for work-related issues
– Identify and plan a self-care program for yourself/staff
– Advance your professional skills (e.g. prioritising competing tasks, managing boundaries,
avoiding procrastination, dealing with conflict, working to trauma-informed principles)

Do I need professional supervision?
You may benefit from regular professional supervision if you answer yes to any of these questions:
– Are you a psychologist, social worker, youth worker, welfare worker, or other allied health
professional providing direct client support?
– Do you manage or supervise teams of human services personnel or other allied health
professionals?

– Do you need independent supervision outside of your workplace to better review and reflect
on your work?
– Do you feel stressed or burnt out by your work?
Supervision is a critical part of safe, trauma-informed and effective practice, especially when you have direct client contact. Evidence suggests supervision leads to:
– Greater job satisfaction
– Improved workplace relationships
– Meeting CPD requirements
– Better service delivery to clients

Why choose us?
Artemis Psychology Services has experience in: providing professional supervision to diverse
clients in public health sector and not-for-profit organisations such as Regional DFV services,
1800RESPECT/DV Connect, Queensland Health, Community Mental Health Services, and
private practice.
Supporting human services personnel and allied health professionals across varied work
settings.

How do I arrange supervision?
If you’re interested in arranging supervision for yourself or an employee, please call us or fill
out our online enquiry form and we will be in touch shortly.
Cynthia is a Board Approved Supervisor and can meet AHPRA requirements.
Some workplaces fund professional supervision for employees—check with your HR team,
Manager, Team Leader, or Supervisor to see if this is an option for you. If you pay for your
own supervision, you may be able to claim it as a work-related expense on your tax return.

How do I attend supervision and how much does it cost?

Online via Zoom/Zanda and $180 plus GST

What are you giving up for lent ?

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Triggered by Family at Christmas and Now Easter with the Family-Why Family Hurts:

Have you ever walked into your family home for the holidays and felt yourself slipping back
into old patterns—people-pleasing, shutting down, overreacting—even when you thought
you’d grown past them? You’re not alone, and more importantly, you’re not imagining it.
That phone call from your mother that shouts at you, Fix me! It’s all your fault! If you really loved me! You’re selfish and ungrateful!

You’ve just got over Xmas! That feeling of dread of being small again, uncertainty, not being
motivated-stuck, being told off for not doing enough for your family members, even though
they only contact you when they need you to fix something, scapegoated again?

The Neurology of Family of Origin Triggers

It’s not just psychological—it’s neurological. When you return to childhood environments,
familiar voices, smells, and even the layout of rooms can activate dormant emotional
pathways in your limbic system. Your brain essentially pulls up old programming, triggering
survival patterns (schemas) that you developed years ago, even if they no longer serve you today.

Think of it like this: your brain has been storing memories and emotional responses since
childhood, creating neural pathways that were designed to help you navigate your family
environment. When you step back into that same environment—same dining room table,
same family dynamics, same roles everyone expects you to play—your brain automatically
retrieves those old patterns. It’s doing what it was designed to do: prepare you for what itexpects based on your past experiences and perceptions.

The challenge is that you’ve grown and changed. You’ve done the work. You’ve developed
new ways of thinking, responding, and being in the world. But your brain doesn’t always get
the memo when you walk through that familiar doorway to your childhood experiences.

How to Remain Grounded in Who You Are Now

The good news? You can stay anchored in your present identity. In this post, I share
practical, science-backed tools to interrupt those old scripts and keep control of these
automatic early schemas, even when your environment tries to pull you back into the past.
You’ll learn why childhood environments trigger survival patterns in adulthood, how familiar
sensory cues activate your limbic system, and most importantly, what you can do about it. I
walk you through a practical framework that you can implement—along with simple
strategies you can use before, during, and after family visits to avoid emotional regression.

These aren’t just coping mechanisms. They’re tools for rewiring your brain’s automatic
reactions so you can show up as your authentic self, not the version of you that your familyremembers from years ago.


The 5-Steps to manage family holidays

Situation: Feeling triggered or regressing to old patterns during family holiday visits, usethese grounding strategies.


Step 1: Identify Triggers

Notice when your body signals that an old pattern has been activated e.g. tension in your
shoulders, headaches, anger rising, or the urge to withdraw. Recognize familiar triggers: a
specific comment or tone of voice, the smell from the kitchen, people over-indulging in
alcohol, or standing in a certain room in the family home. Ask yourself: “What am I feeling right now? What triggered this reaction?”


Step 2: Reflect on your automatic negative beliefs

Explore why this moment activated you. What old survival pattern is trying to take
over—people-pleasing, shutting down, or snapping back? Remind yourself: “This response
belonged to my younger self during family conflict when I felt threatened or responsible. I
am my adult self now and the threat is not so big now.” Consider what unresolved memory
(maladaptive schema) from your past is being replayed and the associated sensations,thoughts, and emotions.


Step 3: Write them down

Journal or voice-note your observations. Write down: the specific trigger (e.g., “Mum’s tone
when she asked about my career or the kids”), your automatic reaction (e.g., “I felt small,
insignificant, judged and wanted to defend myself”), your child part is responding because
deep memories or schemas have been triggered. Now, try to consider an alternative
response aligned with your present-day adult self (e.g., “I can calmly acknowledge her
question without being defensive, over-explaining or being upset”).


Step 4: Dispute your Automatic Negative Belief

Review what you’ve written and identify the pattern. Ask: “Is this reaction serving who I am
now?” “Does my reaction align with my values.” Notice how your body feels as you consider
a new, chosen response. Visualize yourself using your anchor phrase (“I’m the adult version
of me or I am worthy and capable”) and responding from your present identity (I’m OK as Iam) instead of your past programming (I’m not good enough).


Step 5: Formulate an Accepting Belief & Take Action

Create your new action plan. Choose a physical anchor (touching your ear or a piece of
jewellery, adjusting posture, taking a deep breath) and pair it with a neutral self-talk
response phrase like “I felt triggered, but I can handle it”, “I’m not 10 anymore”, “It’s OK, I
am enough.” This will help to ground you in the present and strengthen your own voice and
confidence. Practice this combination often, so it’s ready when the trigger appears. Committo using your anchor in the moment to give your prefrontal cortex time to re-engage before
responding, rather than reacting with your sub-conscious memories or schemas which arehard wired into our autonomic nervous system.

This Easter holidays, you don’t have to slip back into your child self or who you used to be.
You don’t have to brace yourself for conflict or shut down to survive. With the right tools
and an understanding of what’s happening in your autonomic nervous system, you can
show up as the person you’ve become—grounded, intentional, and more mindful andcompassionate about your early (childhood) schemas.


This Easter Holiday Can Be Different

The holidays can be a time of genuine connection rather than survival mode. It starts with
understanding your brain, autonomic nervous system and giving yourself the tools tomanage it effectively.

Welcome to 2026

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Artemis Psychology turns 6 next month! It’s hard to believe it’s six years since I was in Cairns
commencing a new job when COVID hit… The Year of the Fire Horse, the symbol of passion
and transformation. It is an excellent year to commence new beginnings, forward
movement and self-leadership What path are you going to choose for your future?


I’m based in Queensland’s Southeast and worked thru covid, in both Cairns and Brisbane,
starting Artemis Psychology Services in early 2020. Although I predominately work online, I
see clients in person and travel to Cairns regularly. I prefer a casual and friendly approach to
help you feel as comfortable as possible.


My approach is authentic, curious, and objective. I’m upfront, believing that it is important
for us both to be able to speak our truth, in a respectful and gentle way. My role, as your
therapist, is to challenge you to challenge yourself and mentor you to successfully navigate
towards your goals.


I’m open, honest and transparent. I see therapy as a two-way street; it’s like a therapeutic
dance that we engage in together. Therapy is about connecting with oneself while being
safely guided by another. Therapy represents the push-pull of connection, trust, and
attunement between us both.

Is therapy worth it ?

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From The Sopranos to Frasier, TV loves a therapist. At home, everyone from AFL players to everyday Aussies now talks openly about getting help. But with mental ill-health affecting almost half of us, the real question is: is therapy actually worth it?

The short answer: yes — but only if you approach it properly.
Therapy is not a quick fix. It’s an investment, not an expense. And like any investment, the return depends on timing, commitment, and choosing the right professional.

Therapy works — the research is rock-solid

Across Australia, mental health issues now account for a massive share of our disease burden. Roughly one in three GP visits involve anxiety, stress or mood issues. Yet psychotherapy remains one of the most effective interventions we have — often outperforming medical treatments we take for granted.

When therapy works, people think more clearly, feel more settled, make better decisions, sleep more deeply and regain control. These aren’t abstract improvements: brain imaging shows real neurological changes, and measurable indicators — panic-free days, improved functioning, reduced symptoms — back it up.

But trauma therapy is not for the faint-hearted

Under a Mental Health Care Plan, you may receive 6 sessions, then a review, then 4 more — often capped across 12 months. That’s a helpful start, but real trauma work takes honesty about your limits:

  • family, study or work commitments
  • whether you’re in a safe and stable environment
  • whether your nervous system can stay within a workable window of tolerance

Big-T traumas (accidents, assaults, life-threatening events) can often shift in fewer sessions.
Little-t traumas (chronic neglect, emotional abuse, long-term instability) can take much longer — sometimes 12 months or up to 30 sessions. It depends on readiness, stability, and your ability to practice skills between appointments.

Therapy is best done in episodes

Practices like Artemis Psychology often recommend focusing on a few key memories or issues at a time, then pausing to consolidate — rather than pushing through a massive block of therapy all at once. These “episodes of care” allow you to learn tools, step back, practice them, and return when you’re ready for deeper work.

Choosing the right therapist still matters

Stick to evidence-based modalities — those recommended by AHPRA-registered psychologists, or by credible bodies like PACFA and ACA. Ask about their training, supervision, and outcomes. Therapy works best when you’re matched with the right person, the right approach, and the right timing.

The payoff

Therapy requires time, money, emotional effort and commitment — but the benefits are profound:

  • stronger self-awareness
  • clearer decision-making
  • better boundaries
  • more resilience
  • problem-solving skills that last for life

Done well, therapy helps you align your choices with your values, leading to greater clarity, purpose and fulfilment.

If you’re ready, motivated, and work with a qualified professional, therapy is absolutely worth it — for most people, most of the time, and for most problems.

Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model

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The Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model explains how unprocessed traumatic memories disrupt normal brain function and contribute to psychological distress, while memory reconsolidation is a biological process that can update and integrate these problematic memories, leading to a reduction in symptoms. The AIP model, a core component of EMDR therapy, suggests that traumatic experiences lead to maladaptively stored memories that trigger distressing thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations when encountered. By
activating the brain’s inherent capacity to process information, techniques like EMDR can facilitate memory reconsolidation, allowing these old memories to be updated with new information and thus become less disruptive.  This model states that, under normal circumstances, memories consolidate into adaptive networks. However, trauma can create “pathogenic” or dysfunctional memories that hinder this process. 


Maladaptive Storage: 
These unprocessed, maladaptive memories, which include the original cognitive, emotional, and somatic components of the traumatic event, remain “stuck”. 
Re-experiencing: 
When a current experience links to an unresolved memory, it triggers the full sensory and emotional components of the past event, leading to dysfunctional reactions in the present. 
Memory Reconsolidation A Biological Process: 
Memory reconsolidation is the biological process by which retrieved memories become temporarily unstable and are updated with new information before being stored again. 
Reducing Prediction Error: 
The brain seeks to reduce uncertainty by updating memories, minimizing future “prediction errors” (mismatches between what was expected and what happened). 

Updating Traumatic Memories: 
When traumatic memories are retrieved during therapy, they enter a labile state, allowing them to be updated and integrated with more adaptive information, thus reducing their emotional charge and disruptive impact. 
Connection to EMDR Therapy
EMDR’s Mechanism: 
EMDR therapy utilizes the AIP model to understand that trauma creates obstacles to information processing in the prefrontal cortex. 
Bilateral Stimulation: 
The bilateral stimulation (e.g., eye movements) in EMDR helps to activate the brain’s processing system, allowing for the re-evaluation and re-consolidation of these pathogenic memories. 
Resolving Symptoms: 
By supporting memory reconsolidation, EMDR therapy helps to transform these dysfunctional memories, resolving the associated symptoms of trauma and leading to a more adaptive and whole perspective.

What is EMDR Therapy & How does it work?

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Source: EMDR Institute 2025
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. 


Repeated studies show that by using EMDR therapy people can experience the benefits of
psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference. It is widely assumed that severe emotional pain requires a long time to heal. EMDR therapy shows that the mind can in fact heal from psychological trauma much as the body recovers from physical trauma. When you cut your hand, your body works to close the wound. If a foreign object or repeated injury irritates the wound, it festers and causes pain. Once the block is removed, healing resumes.


EMDR therapy demonstrates that a similar sequence of events occurs with mental processes. The brain’s information processing system naturally moves toward mental health. If the system is blocked or imbalanced by the impact of a disturbing event, the emotional wound festers and can cause intense suffering. Once the block is removed, healing resumes.

Using the detailed protocols and procedures learned in EMDR therapy training sessions, clinicians help clients activate their natural healing processes. Eye movements (or other bilateral stimulation) are used during one part of the session. After the clinician has determined which memory to target first, he asks the client to hold different aspects of that event or thought in mind and to use his eyes to track the therapist’s hand as it moves back and forth across the client’s field of vision. As this happens, for reasons believed by a Harvard researcher to be connected with the biological mechanisms involved in Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep, internal associations arise, and the clients begin to process the memory and disturbing feelings.


In successful EMDR therapy, the meaning of painful events is transformed on an emotional level. For instance, a rape victim shifts from feeling horror and self-disgust to holding the firm belief that, “I survived it and I am strong.” Unlike talk therapy, the insights clients gain in EMDR therapy result not so much from clinician interpretation, but from the client’s own accelerated intellectual and emotional processes. The net effect is that clients conclude EMDR therapy feeling empowered by the very experiences that once debased them. Their wounds have not just closed, they have transformed. As a natural outcome of the EMDR therapeutic process, the clients’ thoughts, feelings and behavior are all robust indicators of emotional health and resolution—all without speaking in detail or doing homework used in other therapies.


How does it work?
Phase 1–2: Preparation & Stabilisation
We begin by creating a foundation of emotional safety. You’ll learn tools like breathwork, grounding, and self-soothing, and build insight into how your current symptoms are connected to past experiences.
Phases 3–5: Assessment, Desensitisation & Bilateral Stimulation
Together, we identify a distressing memory linked to what you’re struggling with today. You’ll explore the image, beliefs (“I’m powerless”), emotions, and body sensations attached to it. Bilateral stimulation (BLS)—such as eye movements or tapping—is used to gently reduce the emotional charge, making space for new, more adaptive beliefs (e.g., “I did my best” or “I’m safe now”).


Phases 6–8: Installation, Body Scan, & Integration
As the memory shifts, we strengthen helpful beliefs and check how your body is holding the change. The goal isn’t to erase the past—it’s to help you remember it without reliving it. You might find yourself thinking: “It happened, but it’s not happening now.”


How Can EMDR Help?
While EMDR is most widely used for PTSD and trauma, many therapists and clients report relief
across a broader range of concerns:
Anxiety, panic and phobic responses
Low selfesteem, shame, or imposter syndrome
Performance anxiety (even stage fright— as recently shared by singer Miley Cyrus who engaged in EMDR for this reason) 
Grief, loss, or relational wounds
Emotional triggers tied to identity, worth, or belonging


Sometimes it’s not one traumatic event, but the build-up of many small, dismissive, or hurtful moments that keep us stuck. EMDR can help unstick what’s lodged in the nervous system—often without needing to go into every detail out loud.


Why undertake EMDR?
If talk therapy alone hasn’t shifted things, EMDR offers a more embodied path to healing.
If you’re hesitant about revisiting painful memories, EMDR is paced to your tolerance, and often requires less verbal detail.
If you’re curious but sceptical, know that EMDR is backed by clinical research, meta-analyses, and a growing base of neuroscience—though like many good therapies, the specifics of “why it works” are
still being studied.


Is EMDR Right for Me?
EMDR is most effective when delivered by a therapist who:
– Is fully trained in EMDR
– Works within a safe, relational therapeutic alliance
– Integrates EMDR with emotional awareness, stabilization skills, stepbystep pacing and other evidence-based approaches


It’s not for everyone, and it shouldn’t be used without clinical support. But for many—especially those whose distress feels stuck, repetitive, or physiologically activated—EMDR may support healing to emerge when the memory is held, paired with bilateral stimulation, rather than
bypassed or intellectualised.

BURNOUT: Strategies for Self-Care

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Burnout is a form of emotional exhaustion that can occur in response to persistent and unrelenting stress. Since COVID-19 lockdowns, many people struggled to establish boundaries between work and home, and, in some cases, to juggle the twin demands of work, home school and childcare with no supports in place – the perfect combination of stressors that could eventually result in burnout, even after restrictions eased.


Burnout encompasses a wide range of symptoms, including low energy, motivation or mood; feeling isolated or trapped; feeling cynical or disengaged from work; decreased life satisfaction;
procrastination; irritability; feeling exhausted or drained; disrupted sleep; and physical responses like headaches and body pain.


You don’t need to exhibit all of these symptoms to be experiencing burnout. Conversely, if you’re exhibiting some of these symptoms, it doesn’t mean you’re necessarily experiencing burnout. Burnout usually occurs when you experience some/all of these symptoms in combination with feeling emotionally overloaded. According to the World Health Organization, burnout is an ‘occupational syndrome’, which means


it’s often linked to work; however, new research from the Black Dog Institute and the UNSW School of Psychiatry found that it can also impact people undertaking unpaid home or care duties as well.In short, anyone can experience burnout, although not everyone will – researchers now believe that some personality types are more prone to burnout than others. Autistic Burnout is specific to neurodivergent people, however, the strategies to remedy it are similar, but in conjunction with, an inclusive plan & routine to mitigate triggers and sensitivities while still engaging in a rewarding and balanced lifestyle.


While burnout can feel overwhelming, the good news is that it’s highly manageable.
In fact, self-care – that is, activities you can do at home without the need for medical intervention – can be a good starting point for responding to the symptoms of burnout.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to be proactive about your emotional wellbeing, rather than hoping things will improve on their own.

Click to access Importance-of-selfcare-planning.pdf

Breaking Free from Cravings: How AF-EMDR Therapy Can Help

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Addiction can feel like a trap. Even when you want to stop, the cravings, the memories of the “good feelings,” and the fear of coping without your habit can pull you back in. It’s frustrating and exhausting. But what if there was a way to actually change how your brain responds to those urges?

That’s where AF-EMDR (Addiction-Focused Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) comes in. Originally, EMDR was developed to help people recover from trauma. Over time, therapists noticed it could also be adapted to target the brain processes that keep addictions going. Dr. Arnold Popky (2010) developed special AF-EMDR protocols designed just for this purpose.

Here’s how it helps:

  • Less cravings: AF-EMDR weakens the brain’s “craving circuits,” so the urge to use or act out feels less overwhelming.
  • Breaking the “feel good” link: Addictive behaviours often stick because the brain remembers the temporary pleasure. AF-EMDR interrupts this connection, making the behaviour feel less rewarding.
  • Reducing fear of change: Many people feel scared about what life will look like without their addiction. This therapy helps ease those fears, so change feels more possible.
  • Building lasting results: By working on both cravings and fears, AF-EMDR helps recovery feel more stable and less fragile.

Unlike some treatments that focus only on self-control, AF-EMDR works by actually rewiring how your brain responds to triggers. That means it doesn’t just give you coping tools—it can help reduce the power of cravings at the source.

Recovery is never easy, but therapies like AF-EMDR show that change is possible. By tackling both the pull of addiction and the fears that block progress, this approach offers real hope for a more stable, healthier future.